Have you recently found out that your partner cheated on you? Do you need help to overcome the devastating news? Are you afraid that it may affect your next relationship? If you answered yes to any of these questions, and need help getting over being cheated on here are some tips that could help you not carry these negative experience into your next relationship.
The first thing you need to do is to cut off all contact with your ex (the cheater). Any attempts to communicate will likely backfire and lead to even more pain and conflict. When you first find out you are in shock, hurt and very much confuse it’s not the best time to have any communication with the person that hurt you. Allow some time to go by and gather your thoughts on the situation.
NO DATING (OTHER PEOPLE):
Even though you may be tempted, refrain from jumping back into the dating scene or into another romantic relationship at this time. Right now you are emotionally vulnerable.
GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO BE UPSET:
After being cheated on, some friends and family may try to discourage you from crying and being upset. It’s not good to keep things bottled up inside. When a loved one cheats being angry and crying is a very natural response that can also be extremely therapeutic which in the long run will help you in the healing process.
MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR SITUATION:
In order to have a romantic future and a healthy one you need to make peace with your romantic past. Nothing you can do will erase what has already happened so it’s best to accept and try to move passed it and start healing from it.
You need to remind yourself of the following in order to start the healing process:
• I did nothing wrong (my ex was the one with the dishonesty problem).
• My ex was obviously not the one for me (I’m grateful it was reveal and now I know).
• All men/women are not cheaters (there are a lot of trustworthy men/women)
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