I’m Single, Now What?

So you’re single again, so what? This is the best time to pursue your passions. If you have a hobby, jump into it. If you don’t have one yet, get one.  Do the things you used to dream about, or the things you’ve always said you’d make time for someday.  That day is today.   Go to parks, museums, wherever you like to go and take your kids with you (if you have any). If you have pets, go hiking, or go for a run or camping with them.  The world is yours right now, it’s all about you and what you want! To help you out, I have listed some things to consider that may help in settling into your singlehood.

DO SOMETHIING NEW & EXCITING:

Do something brand new. Decorate and change things around in your house, so that it doesn’t remind you of when you and your partner were together. Venture out to new places you’ve never gone to before; I promise it will be so much fun.

BE ACTIVE & EXERCISE:

Maintain a level of good health. Join the gym. Exercise 3 to 5 days a week for 30 minutes, and see your doctor when necessary. It’s not only important to take care of the emotional and financial aspects of your life, but also your heath as well.

KEEP A DAILY ROUTINE:

Developing a consistent schedule can help you feel more “normal.” Get up at the same time every day, eat your meals at designated times, choose a time to do chores, gardening, etc., so that your life has a sense of structure.

MAKE A GOAL LIST:

Work on accomplishing your goals, one by one. Getting yourself mentally prepared to move forward to the future can help you organize your post-divorce/post-separation life more efficiently–and it feels great once you have accomplished your goal.

BE MORE SOCIAL:

Join a club, organization or support group. If you like to paint join a painting class.  This will help you meet new people, make friends and discover a new skill you did not know about.

GET COUNSELING IF YOU NEED IT:

Divorce/Separation can be as traumatic as experiencing the death of a loved one. There is nothing wrong with getting help from a professional counselor or therapist who can help you in working through your emotional turmoil.